Being the Real You in Relationships: Beautifully Refreshing, Real, and Safe

With the Sun moving through the constellation of Virgo and with Venus conjoining Saturn (western sidereal calculations), this is a great time to observe when we are making ourselves uptight or uncertain when around others. 


Most of us who were brought up in the power-over oriented western culture, which now spans much of the world, often carry about a big old unnerving fear about personal safety around other humans. The fear easily can get triggered in any social encounter. So often we try to pretend its not there because we think we might appear more ridiculous if we admitted it.

The fear for our well-being may grab us just prior to a job interview or before a review by a supervisor. Or maybe it will create a pit in our stomach when we think that we’re “running behind schedule,” as if some almighty judge was about to look down at us with condemning eyes and punish us for being late or for not having everything done on time. 


While the fear in some way served us in the past, it may no longer be serving our best interests anymore. It certainly is creating stress. 

From a very early age, we were taught by authority figures that we must live up to a picture of who or what others think we should be. They held up expectations of how we should think, feel, and act so that we can fit into the world they think is safe and normal. 


If we do not become who they believe we should be, we often were punished, humiliated, for criticized, or shunned. If we went along with their pictures, we got the praise and the smile and stamp of approval. 

The Sun and Saturn in our birth charts speak to being in our own driver’s seat when it comes to running our lives and interacting with others. Our Essences are our inner authorities, just as a wolf, elephant, or tiger take charge of their own daily agendas with confidence and keen awareness. They are alive, untamed, unregulated, and definitely not bored. 

Inside our true Selves, we know what really nourishes us. We have profound inner guidance to rely upon. Our Spirits are brimming over with unconditional love and kindness. We each have a purpose and we come alive when being purposeful in ways that are keeping with who we really are. 

By turning within and checking in with our hearts, senses, and unique intelligence, we readily choose how to respond to life and others from a place of honesty, which is so beautifully refreshing and real. No pretenses. This is our birthright and it makes us feel authentic and safe in relationship. 

Copyrighted 2011 by Ken Robinson. All rights reserved. 

To further awaken your awareness about your path and gifts, contact Ken for a shamanic astrology reading or a Ka Ta See Bone Throw, a profound and delicate ancient divination Ceremony of Calling The Spirits. He can be reached at ken@eraoftheheart.com